Having someone's back means that you don't judge them, that you allow them to choose what they will choose without ever judging them for their choices. Having your own back is the same thing.
We are told that to care about someone is making sure you tell them when they're making mistakes, or tell them how they should be doing things, or when they should be doing them.
But how empowering is any of that?
What if you chose to empower the people around you instead of proving you care by controlling?
When you ask a question it empowers, when you give an answer it disempowers. What if you were to ask your kids/friends/colleagues... if you choose that, what will it create? So they can have their own awareness? It also makes it so that you do not become the source for their life, or someone they have to fight against.
And this applies to ourselves too...do you have your own back? Or have you been judging everything you do to see whether it's right, wrong, if other people will approve or not, or choosing to prove something?
'When you ask a question it empowers,